Alice
in Nurture--Land:
Not
What I Expected but Exactly What I Needed
September Session 1 of 12+ 1 for a bakers dozen.
Ananda’s
Narrative:
This
was the first of my ventures into my year of sensual self care. I was so
nervous reaching out to schedule as I had no idea what the response would be. I
am so glad I did. Her emails from the beginning were warm, personal feeling,
friendly and inviting. Setting up time with her felt like writing to set up a
catching up lunch with a favorite long time friend.
I
had met Alice in Passing @ TRB Valentine's, and saw her on the board for years,
as well as having met her YEARS before in passing (literally hallway passing @
a previously shared space).
Over
the years I have consistently heard amazing, gushing, effusive positive reviews
or references to reviews from mutual clients.
Her
Gold Standard business practices, wonderful communication and intuition have
been mentioned too many times to count so I knew this would be a great place to
start on my year.
I
wrote to her on the 15th to schedule for the 30th of September. As far south
(like Graham out towards the mountain south of Puyallup south) as I am I need
to really plan for a venture to the big city. Driving to Seattle for this
session would be a 1/2 to 3/4 day event. We found a time for a two hour
session and happily calendared it in.
The
day before my session detailed, clear and friendly directions appeared in my
in-box to allow for planning and drive time and parking. Here, I truly began to
get a sense of what it is like to be on the other side of things. Everything
was super clear, super approachable AND I found myself getting nervous. What if
I was late? What if I couldn't find parking? What if I cut it too close after
class?
The
day of the session I could hardly concentrate through my class. I
seriously had the nervous giddies. What if she doesn't like me lol and then she
doesn't want to do client referrals anymore? What if I break protocol and do
something stupid? What if I do something that seems disrespectful of her
space?
About
an hour before my drive, my body decided to play a trick on me, a trick men
don't have to worry about. Cramps. Really? Really!? It was too late to cancel
without being a total flake and losing all respect for my integrity on the
client side of things. This is where heated car seats made the rest of
the journey possible.
Traffic was crazy, parking was crazy ... and my stress level started overtaking the pleasant anticipation I always encourage my clients to enjoy. Wow, even with her doing EVERYTHING sweetly and clearly AND with me understanding the cloak and dagger treasure map (which I also have clients follow) I was tense. I circled and looked for parking and was now cutting it too close and was mortified with fear of being late. So, I cheated and parked in a local business parking garage, crossed my fingers that they didn't see me run out of the storefront and down the block and figured I would pay the ticket or find my car later if it got towed. I was NOT going to be late to another provider's space!
I
want to make really sure to state - her directions were stellar, there is ample
parking - the stress here was me country bumpkin-ing and panicking and having
the rack on my 'roo that sticks out.... THERE is parking - I was just dazed and
confused by my own timing.
I followed all the approach directions, and was greeted discreetly-ee and friendly-ee just as her directions had explained.
Once inside, she made the most wonderful eye contact and asked me how I was doing. I stammered out "nervous" and she just calmly said, "Well of course you are, Everyone is". Then it all started to relax.
We spoke of what I may want or need or enjoy, and I had to fess up about my body's crazy sense of timing. I was afraid to get near the white linens lol. We talked about perhaps needing more nurturing body touch than revving up over tea, and decided to see where my body led us once I was on the table.
I felt more "heard" by her than by most massage therapists or other healers in other venues over the course of decades of getting massages. She listened with her eyes, and her energy to everything I was saying verbally and body language and overall expressions.
Shower
time (which I really needed after all the nerves and heated car seat) ...
instructions on how the session would go, and I got to crawl onto the table.
And
she listened more... with her body, her energy and her entire being.
The
details of the physical experience aren't easily put-into-words-able.
This
session was definitely shaped and held differently than the more usual sensual
touch FBST table time. And it was perfectly what I needed.
Warmth,
connection, contact, brain off, bunted and bundled and cocooned in healing and
tenderness.
It
was not at all the session I had imagined before the cramps.
But
it felt like being taken care of completely, wholly and lovingly.
And
it was the perfect ice breaker for my year long journey.
Only
one complaint as I crawled off the table. I should have booked 3 hours.
Never
once, in the entire time did I feel disconnected or that her attention
wandered.
I
left feeling cozy, safe, feminine, happy, relaxed and totally totally accepted
for exactly where I was that day, that moment, in this body.
And,
I will be back for a more playful session in the future.
ANANDA’S
own Template: (Synopsis in Brief)
Why
her? How did I pick this provider?
Mutual Clients Personal Glowing Reports, TRB reviews, met in
passing years prior & good feeling after meeting @ TRB party in February.
Would/Will
I come back as a client?
Yes.
Would/will
I Refer My Favorite Clients?
Yes. Already have and will most for sure-ed-ly continue.
Would/will
I refer my Poly-Partners?
Yes.
Would/will
I refer my female friends?
Yes.
What
is the overall Flavor/feel of this experience?
Safe. Healing. Clean. Nurturing. Accepting. Loving.
Was
it worth the money, time and Travel?
Yes.
What
does this person offer that sets her apart/defines her.
Her ability to remain truly with me the entire time and the feeling
that that could have continued as long as I was able to stay.
Logistics:
Her
Screening Process:
She went easy on me since she knows me by reputation and
previous passing encounters, AND I believe she tries to make screening as
comfortable as possible for all clients, while maintaining her safety.
Her
Preferred communication for set up:
We communicated via email, which is ideal for me.
Her
Preferred communication for day of session:
Email until last minute, Phone for final clearance to land.
Communication
(response time/ clarity):
Excellent, personable and welcoming.
Cloak
and dagger rating:
She has lots to communicate and is very clear, thorough and
friendly in conveying.
Travel
time to get there:
From school 60+ mins
Travel
time to get home:
90+ minutes
Distance
Traveled round trip:
60? ish miles ?
Was
it worth the time and distance?
YEP
Was
it a Good value for the service/donation Ratio?
Absolutely.
Ananda’s
Template: The Female Lens Version
About
the Venue:
Adjectives:
Elegant, safe, cozy, warm, comfy and sexy.
Is
it pretty?
Yes.
Is
it warm enough?
Yes and she checked in.
Does
it smell good?
I noticed the warm tea rather than anything else.
Shower?
Yes, small , comfy & clean
Music/sound?
white noise air conditioner, she checked in for sound/volume.
conversation was easily had and breathing together was not overpowered.
All
Five+ Senses?
YES
About
the Session
Welcoming
ritual
Eye contact, conversation, tea and sitting down before shower.
Refreshments
tea, water
Aftercare
non rushed pace, non rushed shower option, friendly checking in
and presencing conversation.
Session
length - generous/shy/right on the dot?
generous with gentle boundaries - she held space without clock
watching
Yoni
confidence
barely scratched the surface - due to my body's timing
Timing
slow, persuasive, consistent and adaptive
Patience
yes
Build-up
n/a for this session
Nurturing/Racy
Nurturing
About
the Practitioner
Adjectives:
Compassionate, gentle, in shape and comfortable in her skin.
Warmth
Very much
Friendliness
Yes, at all stages of interaction from scheduling to follow up
email after.
Putting
at easy-ness
Yes.
Comfort
with women: (YES bring it, OH goody - a girl!, well I can, somewhere tween?)
I felt very welcomed and appreciated in my girl-ness, like it
was a special treat.
Would/Will
I refer my female friends here?
No
reservations
completely comfortable
Would
buy them gift certificates
yep
Maybe
just men-friends
did not at all get that vibe that only men would be really
welcome
As
a Provider: For my clients:
Would
I send my clients here? (My good clients, not clients I haven't seen and just
can't fit in, but my favorite clients)
Would
I put my name to her session quality?
YES.
Is
it safe?
Yes
Is
it clean?
Yes
Is
She genuine?
Yes
Healer
vs. Playmate vibe
For me, this day definitely a true healer. I don't think that is
all that is there, just didn't have a chance to explore more playful side.
Would
I spend my client’s money there?
Yes
How
does she talk about Her clients?
With affection and respect
Is
she ethical?
Yes.
Do
I have any behind the scenes ick/weird feeling (s) ?
None at All.
As
a Provider - From Practitioner to Practitioner
From
- let’s talk shop - to it’s all about me on the table
Perfect Balance - finding common ground but then focusing on me.
Would
I Duo with this person? (I would be honored, on a lark, it would be magic…..)
Would be Honored.
Special
training/skill-set(medical/massage/psychology background)
Energy Work, Body knowledge, Communications all seemed to be
very well integrated from many sources.
Education
I am not sure exactly - but very easy to talk to about many
things at many levels.
As
a Poly Partner
Would
I send “my” men (my personal sweeties/beloveds) there?
YES
No Reservations - Completely Comfy Sending
I would buy them gift certificates
Through
the Men’s Lens: Review Format
Hybrid
Template: The Boy Version (Borrowed from the Local Boards /Review Sites)
Service/Session
Type
FBST
Service
Length
Two Hours
LOCATION:
Seattle INcall
DATE:
Sept 30th 2015
NAME:
Alice C.
INCALL/OUTCALL:
INcall
AGENCY
OR INDY:
Ind.
ACCURATE
PICTURE:
Yes.
AGE:
30's (I am relatively oblivious to this)
PERSONALITY:
Warm, healing, friendly, affectionate
RACE:
White
BODY
TYPE:
Slender, fit
WEIGHT:
I am clueless
HEIGHT:
less tall than me
BUST:
soft and comfortable for hugging
WAIST:
proportionate
HIPS:
proportionate
HAIR:
long and pretty and soft
EYES:
meltee intooeee and connectee
FEET:
pretty sure she has these
SKIN
TONE:
soft
TRIMMING:
wasn't paying attention - was focused on hands and over all
contact
TATTOOS:
? I am clueless
SCARS:
? I am clueless
PIERCINGS:
? I am clueless
MOLES:
? I am clueless
BIRTHMARKS:
? I am clueless
CLOTHES:
very attractive athletic wear, and then comfy sarong
GLASSES:
no
MOANER
OR A SCREAMER:
n/a
ENERGY
LEVEL DURING THE SESSION:
steady, healing, connected
MULTI
SHOTS DURING THE HOUR:
n/a
ACCEPTS
FRENCH:
n/a
SMOKES:
n/a
DRINKS:
n/a
KISSES:
n/a
FRENCH:
n/a
GREEK:
n/a
RUSSIAN:
n/a
DO’s
or DON’T’s:
follow instructions and be a real person
PHONE:
Given day of
RATES:
My freewill donation was $300 + tip
RECOMMEND:
YES
COMMENTS:
see above narrative
Ananda's
Final Musings:
I have said most everything already above - I wish I had a
teleporter for after and had scheduled more time. I will be back for a
different type of session and I highly recommend her work. I am so very glad we
live in an area with this caliber of practitioner.
The biggest thing I learned was that even when we as providers
try to make it stress free and simple - it's a lot from the clients perspective
and that I am so glad I am nice to people who are overwhelmed by the travel and
treasure map.
